Duckpin Smackdown

Discerning the Father's Will, at the feet of the Son, through the guidance of the Holy Spirit as a student in the school of Mary.
Sedes sapientiae, ora pro nobis

I have many cherished memories of my childhood. One of those is of dad, with the constant support of mom, teaching my brothers and me how to pray. He would get home late at night from work and he would round us all up on one bed and make us take three deep breaths. We were always wound up and never went to bed when mom wanted us to. Then he would take a prayer card out of his shirt pocket and teach us the prayer line by line. Soon we developed a sort of regimen of prayer that I still pray to this day. Before we prayed any of the formal prayers that he taught us though, we always prayed for our family. We called dad's parents "Grandmommy and Pepaw" and, of course, as you all know, mom's parents were always "Momma Carol and Grandpa Frank." We would pray that God would bless "Grandmommy and Pepaw and all their families" and "Momma Carol and Grandpa Frank and all their families". I prayed that all through my childhood and I am grateful to be able to pray with all of you today this same prayer, but in a special way. Today we pray that God will bless all of our families, but especially our dear "Momma Carol."
The psalm that I read is a beautiful one, isn't it? It's one of my favorites: "I lift my eyes up to the hills, where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth" (Ps 121). I imagine, when I read that psalm, a man in a dark valley at night time, laid low by suffering and hardship. When it seems that all is lost he spends the last bit of energy he has on lifting his head a little bit. His eyes squint and peer in the distance toward the tops of the hills surrounding the valley. He hopes to see someone come over the hill, down into his valley, to save him. Where does his help come from? But then he sees not a person, but the sun, casting its first rays over the hills. "Of course," he thinks to himself, "the sun reminds me again, my help is in the name of the Lord, who made heaven and earth." He is reassured of the Lord's constant presence and help and is given the hope to persevere.
Momma Carol's help was always near to us too, wasn't it? I remember staying home sick from school and mom would drop me off at her house. I used to love to sit by her on the couch and watch Price is Right! And it seemed like even buttered toast tasted better when she made it! And who can forget those wonderful Thanksgiving dinners when she was still active; that constant stream of pumpkin pies. She helped us all in little ways like these, to be loved and appreciated and cared for. I remember her amazing sense of humor and biting wit but also the way that she gave us her motherly and grandmotherly care with such dignity and refinement.
Even when her M.S. made her weaker and weaker over many, many years, she always retained her dignity and refinement. For all the years she helped us, you all helped her in many various ways in return. Grandpa Frank was her constant companion and caregiver. And so many of you also took care of her with dedication and devotion, by tidying the house, fixing her hair, preparing meals, running errands, or by simply offering a silent prayer from a distance. You all should be proud of the way in which you returned the love that Momma Carol so generously gave you. When she was weak and looked up for help, you were the rays of the sun, sent by the Son of God, to be His Help to her. Certainly we all prayed that God would heal her, that one of the many remedies she tried would be successful. But God's help for her did not come in the form of a cure, God's Help was you.
Let us not underestimate the help that God gives us through the people that He brings into our lives. And let us make a conscious effort to be open to Him, so we can be always available to Him, to be used by Him to help someone else. Caring for Momma Carol was an instinct, a no-brainer, out of her love for you and your love for her, you just did it. But I don't think she would want that to stop, now that she has died.
One of the hidden blessings of this funeral for me has been that I have been able to meet, again, long-lost aunts, uncles, and cousins that I haven't seen since I was a little kid. Now that we are all together, how might we continue the love and care that we showed Momma Carol? How might we continue to extend the help of God, in the Name of the Lord?
I know that some of you helped her so often that your very lives were formed by the routine you kept: checking medicine at certain times, making meals at certain times, calling on the phone at certain times. And it can be painful and jarring for a day to all of a sudden come along in which these routines come to a screeching halt. "What am I going to do with myself now?" you might be thinking. "I should be checking on her right now. I should be visiting her right now." These loving and helpful gestures don't have to stop today. Look around you, look at how much of our family is here today. Who here could use a helpful reminder, help with cooking, an occasional phone call, or a visit? I think we call could. I think Momma Carol would want us to help each other in these ways.
But this is sort of daunting isn't it? I don't pretend this is easy. Helping Momma Carol wasn't easy. I know there were many hard days. And helping each other isn't easy, especially if there are disappointments or hurts in our pasts. But I find consolation in an old quote from St. Augustine, one of the early Church Fathers of Catholicism. He said, "The God who made you without you will not save you without you." Meaning, that we had nothing to do with our creation, we didn't choose our parents or our siblings or the situations in which we would be raised. God made us out of his own freedom and overflowing love. But when it comes to saving us, to introducing Himself into our lives, to giving us grace, to using us to help his sons and daughters, He will not force Himself upon us – we must accept Him and cooperate with Him. My point is that you could have never helped Momma Carol the way you did had you not believed in prayer and allowed God to use you and empower you with his grace. It's not all up to us and our skills and abilities. We can help each other, even if there are difficulties, even if we think we are ill-equipped to do so, if we open ourselves to God and let Him help us, with us, through us.
In a few minutes, after we have all gotten a chance to say our goodbyes, several of the grandsons and I will help to carry her to her final place of rest and peace. This little procession is an ancient symbol of helping our deceased loved ones on the journey to Christ. We will represent all of you as we help her in this special way. Let us continue to help her and each other with our prayers and good deeds. And at any time we are ever weakened, let us confidently lift our eyes up to the hills. Where does our help come from? Our help is in the Name of the Lord, who made heaven and earth.
[Background: A Wedding homily for the marriage between my twin brother Nicholas Hardesty and his wife Amy who, providentially, were recently married on Oct 24, 2009. The presider and homilist was Bishop Malone at the Cathedral of the Diocese of Portland, ME where Amy is a parishioner and where the Bishop is a friend of her family. This homily is directed to my family who is half Presbyterian and half faithful Catholics and her family who are all faithful Catholics.]
First, I would like to thank His Excellency, Bishop Malone, for allowing me to preach at this wonderful occasion in his place. It is an honor to celebrate this wedding alongside of you Bishop and it is a great joy for me especially to be able to preach.
What can I say? In a sense I am lost for words, my twin brother Nick is getting married! I am closer to no one on the face of this earth than I am to him. And I have been blessed to be able to know Amy quite well through him. What could I possibly say on this occasion to either of them that hasn't already been said in many conversations or that they don't already know? Both are faithful Catholics, daily Mass-goers, devoted to and knowledgeable of the Catholic Church and her teachings, both with degrees in catechesis, in teaching the faith. Nonetheless, I am charged by the instructions of the marriage ritual to "show the importance of Christian marriage in the history of salvation and the duties and responsibility of the couple in caring for the holiness of their children" (Rite of Marriage, 6) and I must "emphasize the meaning of the sacrament and the obligations of marriage" (11). Besides, I am blessed to have all of you here as well, Amy's family from close by and my family from all the way in Kentucky… and "Priests are ministers of Christ's gospel to everyone" (9). But, perhaps it is Nick and Amy who will soon be instructing me, and us? In fact, I'm sure of it.
Look at the very Mass we have celebrated so far which I know Nick and Amy worked very hard to plan. At the beginning of the Mass, Amy and Nick processed together behind the cross and the candles, behind the Bishop and the other ministers, as a sign of their free and mutual self-giving to each other in the sacrament of matrimony and their desire to stay close to Christ and the Church in doing so. The beautiful Latin chant that you all heard as we processed in is what we call the Entrance Antiphon. It was a passage from the book of Tobit which in English said, "May the God of Israel join you together: and may He be with you, who was merciful to two only children: and now, O Lord, make them bless Thee more fully. Blessed are all they that fear the Lord, that walk in his ways" (Tobit 7:15, 8:19).
May the God of Israel join you together – this joining, this union of man and woman, of husband and wife is at the essence of marriage and is what Nick and Amy decided to focus on in their selection of readings for this Mass. In fact we have the rare occasion of having the same line repeated in all three readings: "a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body" (Gen 2:24; Eph 5:31; Mt 19:5).
From the very beginning, the same God who created human beings male and female, who differentiates their sexuality, in turn calls them to be one. By God's own will and design men and women are made differently but complimentary. They are made for each other, ordered toward each other, to compliment each other physically, spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically. They are meant to come together by a divine act of God and become one. Today that divine act is the sacrament of marriage. At last, in marriage, a husband has a "suitable partner", more suitable than all the rest of creation, more suitable than his job that may consume his life, or his plans and ambitions, or his money and possessions (or lack thereof!), or even his own friends and family. No one, no thing, other than the bride that God intends for him will he find suitable. Finally, she is someone he can relate to, whom he knows, whom he can love even as he loves himself. "This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh," Adam exclaimed. This deep attraction, designed by God himself, is so strong that a man and a women will even leave their own mother and father in order to cling to each other and become one. But this phenomenon, present from the very beginning of mankind, itsn't described in Genesis as a sort of quaint anecdote. The author was inspired by God to record it so that God's chosen people would read it and meditate on it for centuries would be prepared for its fulfillment. Because, you see, God was so pleased with this order that he followed it himself. God the Son, the Second Person of the Holy Trinity, Jesus Christ, left the side of the Father, so-to-speak, in order to become human, to be like us in all things but sin, to cling to us, to become one with us.
And so when this same line – about a man leaving his father and mother and clinging to his wife and the two becoming one body – is repeated in the second reading from St. Paul's Letter to the Ephesians, Nick and Amy are presenting to us a continual unfolding of this mystery. I must commend them for their courage in choosing this particular reading. It isn't often used because it challenges our modern sensibilities with phrases like "wives should be subordinate to their husbands" and "the husband is head of his wife". We are tempted to quickly react and jump to the defensive – "That is oppression to say that wives should be subordinate to their husbands!" But, if we let these phrases distract us, we can miss their true meaning and we can miss what is regarded as the richest treatment of marriage in all of Scripture.
Yes, it is true, St. Paul is instructing the Ephesians that wives should be subordinate to their husbands but always as his "suitable partner" not as in slavery or inferiority. Husbands who make too much of these passages should not forget what else is said, that they must love their wives even as Christ loved the Church, with the union that he had with her, with the lengths that he went for her. With all this talk of the subordination of wives it is actually husbands who have the harder job! For if they are to love as Christ loves then they must lay down their very lives for their bride, just as Jesus did.
Nick, you may not be called to physically lay down your life for Amy, as in taking a bullet for her or pushing her out of the way of a speeding car, but you must be willing, with God's help, to do them. Whatever is beneficial unto Amy's salvation, physical or spiritual, you must be willing to embrace. Only in this way will you love her as Jesus Christ does.
Amy, for your part, you must always be willing to nurture and accept this type of self-giving, self-sacrificing love from Nick and return it generously to him. Avoid all temptations to pride or status, to asserting yourself over him as if you don't need the love he is called by God to give to you. Rather, always be of service to this love. You as a woman are uniquely knowledgeable of love, in your natural maternal instincts and abilities, in your sensitivity and affection, in your generosity of feeling and empathy, in your creativity and warmth. In all of these, teach Nick how to love more and more. Call a new man out of him, a man not driven by lesser passions, darting too and fro at every sensation, a man who isn't cold and calculating, strong but unfeeling; a man who isn't afraid to give of himself, to sacrifice, to love. Nurture and coax a true love out of him. If you can do this you will find yourself loved and satisfied like you never have before. For this is what every man wants to do but ends up frustrating in so many wild and divergent things. Every man wants to love, to give himself, to be fruitful, to guide and protect, to be one with a woman. Nick and Amy, if you can cooperate with the grace of this sacrament, to allow your marriage to be the training ground of this desire, then you will truly mirror to the world the love that Christ has for the Church. This is what St. Paul saw in that age-old passage from Genesis. This is what the Church sees in your marriage today. This is how you can teach us what Christ's love is all about.
In St. Matthew's Gospel, when we hear this line for a third time, about a man leaving his father and mother to be joined to a wife and the two become one, we hear it in response to the question of divorce. "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?" When or Lord takes up this line Himself, he gives a categorical "No." And it is as if man in his very nature, marriage in its very essence, God's Love being what it is – all unite in one chorus against divorce. Marriage would not be marriage if it was open to divorce. In fact, the mutual, free, willful intention of Amy and Nick to live forever as one until death is crucial for what we are doing here to be valid. Without that firm conviction and covenant, we may as well all go home! But, I encourage you not to be afraid. The Church is not a haven for saints, but a hospital for sinners with Christ as the Divine Physician ready to heal us, through the Church, of all the wounds we have experienced through divorce or broken families. And as much as we rely on Nick and Amy to teach us through their union about Christ's love for us, they are relying on us to support and encourage them, to pass on to them the lessons we have learned from both happy and unhappy marriages.
Be assured too, Nick and Amy of my personal prayers and assistance at any time whatsoever. Although we are now going our separate ways Nick, we too will always have a bond, the bond of brothers, of twins, of friends that while not as deep as the bond of marriage, will, I pray, be as lasting. St. Gregory Nazianzen, a Father of the Church, describing the start of his friendship with St. Basil expresses this sentiment I wish to give you, for you to remember as you move forward now into your marriage:
We each had a great desire for knowledge, an ambition that is sometimes the cause of great envy among people; but neither of us felt any envy, and we each sought to emulate the other. The disputes we engaged in were not to establish which of us ranked first, ahead of the other, but to see who would first cede that priority to his friend; each of us considered the glory of the other as his own. It was as if one soul animated two bodies." (Navarre commentary on Sirach 22:1-26)
At the end of last summer, on a retreat with a group from this parish, I saw a crucifix I think I will never forget. Our retreat was to the EWTN studios in Irondale, AL but also to their magnificent Shrine of the Most Blessed Sacrament in Hanceville, AL. When we arrived at the grounds of the Shrine, which is also where their new monastery is located, the first thing we saw was a large, authentic castle. It had large towers at each corner and a huge wooden door. Inside were wooden-plank tables with tall stately chairs around them and Biblical scrolls on display. Along the walls were coats of arms, royal flags and banners, and suits of armor. Also prominently displayed inside were heroic statues of St. Joan of Arc and St. Michael the Archangel.
The reason they have such a castle, practically, is so that the constant stream of pilgrims to their Shrine will have a place to congregate freely without disturbing the quiet of the piazza outside that is between the castle and the Shrine Church. The castle also houses the EWTN gift shop, a medieval mess hall for group lunches, and meeting rooms where the Franciscan Friars gives reflections and talks. But, spiritually, this castle is a very real reminder of the spiritual warfare that is waged all around us and the necessity for all of us engage this battle with courage and resolve. And a castle always reminds us that we have a king, Jesus Christ, who has fought and won the battle against sin and death.
As we exited the castle and crossed the piazza toward the Church we noticed two long colonnades on either side, one containing the Stations of the Cross and the other the crucifix that I so vividly remember. It was life-sized and commissioned by an artist to reflect the wounds which are shown in the Shroud of Turin, the burial cloth in which Jesus was wrapped when he was laid in the tomb. From a display on the Shroud that we later saw inside the monastery, we were able to see faint streaks of blood from the hundreds of gashes and wounds that Christ suffered, from the moment of his arrest to the piercing of his side on the cross. All of these wounds were depicted on the crucifix that we stood beneath. Literally every inch of his body was slashed or wounded. The sight of it almost made me recoil, it was hard to look at. But I think this has been the common reaction of all mankind since that first, dark, Good Friday afternoon. Indeed, as Isaiah the prophet foretold, "Many were amazed at him – so marred was his look beyond that of man, and his appearance beyond that of mortals – so shall he startle many nations, because of him kings shall stand speechless … He was… One of those from whom men hide their faces" (Isaiah 52:14-15; 53:3).
Crucifixion was the most painful and degrading punishment that the Roman empire employed, so horrible that Romans were exempt from it – it was reserved for the worst criminals and insurrectionists among those they ruled. The words of the great Roman orator, Cicero, show how infamous a punishment it was: "That a Roman citizen should be bound is an abuse," he said, "that he be lashed is a crime; that he be put to death is virtually [as to kill one's closest relative]; what, then, shall I say, if he be hung on a cross? There is no word fit to describe a deed so horrible." How then does the castle hold true? Is this the king we were all prepared to meet?
He is king, and upon the cross, especially so. Holy Scripture makes this very point. But we need not be afraid. Only evil need shudder, not those who are holy and subservient to Him, for He is unlike any king we have ever known. Isaiah, again, foretold "Because of his affliction he shall see… his portion among the great, and he shall divide the spoils with the mighty, Because he surrendered himself to death and was counted among the wicked" (Is 53:11, 12). And the author of the Letter to the Hebrews proclaimed "Therefore, since we have a great high priest who passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us… confidently approach the throne of grace to receive mercy and to find grace for timely help" (Heb 4:14, 16).
"To men Christ's kingship may seem paradoxical: he dies, yet he lives forever; he is defeated and crucified, yet he is victorious". But, throughout His Passion and Death that we contemplate today, Christ's Kingship is maintained. Our account from John's Gospel in particular emphasizes
"that Jesus freely accepted his death (Jn 14:31) and freely allowed himself to be arrested (18:4, 11). The Gospel shows our Lord's superiority over his judges (18:20-21) and accusers (19:8, 12); and his majestic serenity in the face of pain, which makes one more aware of [Jesus' triumph] than of his actual sufferings."
When Judas, the Roman cohort, and the temple police came upon Jesus to arrest him, the power of his Divine Name alone – the Great "I AM", the name God revealed to Moses in the burning bush – caused them to "draw back and fall to the ground." Later in the praetorium when Pilate said to him, "Are you the king of the Jews?" Jesus answered, "My kingship is not of this world… For this I was born, and for this I have come into the world, to bear witness to the truth." And His power is such that even evildoers proclaim his kingship. As the soldiers, who intended to mock him, placed a crown of thorns and a robe around his shoulders, they shouted "Hail, King of the Jews!" And the final charge, placed over his head for the whole world to read, said the same: I.N.R.I. – Iesus Nazarenus Rex Iudeorum – Jesus of Nazareth, King of the Jews.
His kingship as a man was meek and moderated. He did not allow the royalty of his divinity, his claim on all creation, to have the glorious splendor it deserved. Many of the Jews held a false notion of what the King Messiah was to be; they expected a great temporal conqueror who would free them from Roman oppression. But He did not come to exercise earthly power. He wanted a spiritual reign, to rule over hearts.
This truth he showed the whole world when he made his cross his last earthly throne: Upon his death on the cross, "God highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name which is above every other name, that at the name of Jesus every knee must [bend], in heaven and on earth and under the earth; and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. (Phil 2:9-11).
What then does Christ's kingship mean for us? The Catholic Church is the Kingdom of God on earth. Each one of us is called to participate in this kingdom and expand it through our good works. The Lord should be present in our families, among our friends, neighbors and colleagues at work. And St. Josemaria Escriva taught us firmly:
Against those who reduce religion to a set of negative statements, or are happy to settle for a watered-down Catholicism; against those who wish to see the Lord with his face against the wall, or to put him in a corner of our souls, we have to affirm, with our words and with our deeds, that we aspire to make Christ the King reign indeed over all hearts, theirs included.
We cannot wait, let us work now: that he might reign in our minds with firm belief in truth and doctrine; in our will with obedience to the will of God; and in our hearts with love for God above all things. Then we can confidently pray with the good thief who, looking at Christ on the cross, recognized his kingship, placed his trust in him and received the promise of heaven: "Jesus, remember me when you come in your kingly power." (Lk 23:42).
What a loving God we have! Every feature of his life, every action, every spoken and unspoken word is for us and for our salvation. But what good could possibly come from his actions today? He fasted for forty days and forty nights but then he was hungry. And why must we hear about Satan attacking our Lord? It is a repulsive story and it offends our deepest sentiments toward Jesus. But, out of his great humility, he submitted himself to these things to illuminate one of the most basic aspects of human life, one with which we are all painfully aware: the temptation to sin. He doesn't just exhort us to do good and avoid evil from an ivory tower, unfamiliar with how difficult this can sometimes be. He enters this crucible himself, to show us how to pass the test.
First, he prayed and fasted for forty days. As we enter into the season of Lent, this great season of preparation for Easter, we take our cue from the Lord himself. We pray and fast and do penances for forty days precisely because he showed us that this is the proper way to prepare ourselves for any big moments that lie ahead. Through testing and purification we find out our true mettle, what we are really made of. Gold is tested in fire for a while so that its impurities may be burned away and its truer, shining qualities may be revealed. Jesus, while perfect, endured the trial of fasting and being tempted to prepare to proclaim the Kingdom of God. So we too must be tried and tested by Lent so that we may be better disposed to receive the graces of Easter and to proclaim with Christ through all of our words and actions, his saving power. Only if we are willing to share in his suffering with him will he then share his glory with us.
Every year at this time, the Church instructs us to pray more, to fast on certain days, to give up meat on others, to be more charitable in our support of the Church, and so forth. But equally important is the renewed commitment to avoid sin in our lives. We must double our efforts to resist the temptations to sin, which now more than ever assail us from every side because our sights are set on the Cross and the salvation that it brings. This sight horrifies the devil and we can be sure he too will be doubling his efforts in order to turn us away from it. Indeed his temptations are quite horrible. Why are we so often tested in this way? Why couldn't God choose another way? He knows all, can't he simply look at us and see our faith as-is?
Let us not despair over having to be tempted, tempted to eat too much food, to spend too much money, to waste too much time, to love too little; none of us is alone in these, we all experience them together. And none of us are immune from them. Indeed, Scripture says, Jesus the Son of God, was led by the Spirit into the desert to be tempted by the devil. "When Mark tells the same story, he says that 'the Spirit immediately drove Jesus out into the wilderness.' The Greek verb translated as 'drove' means, literally, 'threw'!" The Holy Spirit threw him right into the middle of temptation. But, let us never think that God tempts us. In our case, He allows us to be tempted out of compassion for us, so that we might grow in faith. God learns nothing by the trials he allows us to face. He is not sitting up in heaven waiting to see the results. But we certainly learn something, many things actually, of the level of our commitment, our progress in the spiritual life, where our true affections lie, the nature of our desires, and the depth of our love for God and our brothers and sisters. Every temptation poses the question, "Am I for God or against Him? Will I say 'Yes' to Him or 'No'?" Every Yes exercises our faith and makes it stronger. Every single choice for God rather than ourselves steeps us deeper in virtue and his gifts and burns away our affections for sin and evil.
But this still seems not to add up! Later on in this Mass we will all pray the Our Father together and we will petition Him to "lead us not into temptation". If temptation has such a noble purpose, why do we ask him every day (hopefully many times a day) to lead us away from it? Indeed, not once, but twice in the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus urged his apostles to pray that they not enter into temptation. This is because he knows that we aren't ready. Making this petition – to lead us not into temptation – a heartfelt one and not just mindless words, helps us to be humble in the battle against evil. Notice, Jesus did not teach us to pray "lead us not into being tempted" but "lead us not into temptation." There is no sin in being tempted. We are constantly tempted by the devil, by other people, by unfortunate circumstances in life that are outside of ourselves. But when we start to give these due consideration, when we start to bring them further and further inside our hearts and minds, then they become temptation and sin. And this is something we can never overcome on our own. God's will is never thwarted in spite of all of these occasions. Rather, he wills that every temptation be an occasion for grace. And with every temptation God always provides the way out, but we must have the courage to take it rather than rely on ourselves or given in. And we must build ourselves up with spiritual tools so that we will be able to choose the way out. We often choose sin time and time again, unable to bear the trial, because we come to the occasion crippled by our previous failures.
My brothers and sisters, when you are tempted to sin, turn the devil on his head! Even in sexual sins that cause so much pain, like infidelity to your spouse, or lust on the internet, you can foil the devil, just like Jesus did in the desert. After every time Satan tempted our Lord he always replied with Scripture, the Word of God. Even when Satan tried to manipulate Scripture and quote it himself, to fool Jesus, Jesus quoted it right back at him, accurately and truthfully. The devil didn't have a chance in the face of the Truth and he was forced to leave. Remember this: Any time the devil's temptation becomes an occasion for prayer or Scripture his knees are chopped out right from under him. In the moment of a trial, when you are tempted in any way at all toward sin, turn to the Truth, say a Prayer you have memorized, quote out loud a Scripture passage you remember, return to Reality. Often we are encouraged to run away and flee the second we are tempted. But our Lord did not run away! Stay there, thrown right in the middle of the temptation, and endure in a manly way, armed with the Truth! This is not pridefulness or presumption of your ability. This is truth and the devil hates the Truth! When you are tempted to sin, stay right there in the moment, say a short prayer, even if it is just the name of Jesus, and ask yourself, "What do I really want?" This question helps us stay in the Truth, in Reality. Most of the time, we will not be tempted by the devil in the same way he tempted our Lord, with clear conditions and vivid images of the snake oil he is trying to sell. No, we will be tempted with much lies and deceits, with fog and misunderstanding, with unclear consequences and faraway treasures. Asking the question, "What do I really want?" cuts through the fog and deception and gets at the Truth of the matter, the reality of the situation, our deepest desires. The devil will cease his efforts if his every advance results in an increase in prayer and truth!
My dear friends, what do you really want in life, I mean really want? It is often not really about the object of the temptation at all. It is never about pornography, or infidelity, or food, or alcohol, it is about something much deeper. What we really want is often simply intimacy, intimacy with God and the ones we love. What we really want is just to give and receive love. What we really want is to belong or to be happy, especially to be happy. But sometimes it is the case that we have chosen wrongly so many times that we forget how to properly satisfy these desires (which are good and true). This Satisfaction is only Our Lord, Jesus Christ who never abandons us, especially in our times of greatest need. It is true that we understand mortal sin to be a serious sin that we enter willingly and that breaks our relationship with God; while venial sin is less grave and merely wounds this relationship. But let me be perfectly clear, it is we who break the relationship, not God. It is as if we are sitting side-by-side and we turn our backs to Him, yet He is still there. Where do you think God is when you sin? Where do you think the Virgin Mary is when you sin, no matter what it is, whether it be a white lie or adultery? I used to think they were far, far away, but this could not be further from the Truth. They are right there, right beside you, gazing on you with pity and love, longing for you to turn back to them. Not all of us struggle with sin to the point of addiction, but if you do, take heart in the constant presence and love of the Father and of your Blessed Mother. You may be disgusted by the thought of their closeness in the moment of sin but they are not afraid of you! They love you too much to be apart from you! My dear brothers and sisters, God wants you to be a saint more than you do! Because God is behind us… Because God, even for our parish today, is longing for us, strengthening us by grace in the Eucharist and Confession, and purifying us this Lent through trials and penances, it will be harder for us Not to be Saints than to be one! This Lent, enter the desert with our Lord bravely, yet trusting that "He will command his angels concerning you, to guard you" and "With their hands they will support you, lest you dash your foot against a stone", not because you are self-righteous and prideful, but because you are week and he loves you so.
But, I hope you understand, as grateful as I am to all of you, there is another claim on my gratitude that towers above all the rest.How so very, very true. What a beautiful statement. I didn't even finish reading the homily after I read that.
Above all, above all, I give praise to God, our Father, for raising His Son Jesus Christ from the dead! For “Christ is risen! He is truly risen! Give thanks to the Lord for He is good! For His mercy endures for ever!”
For this is not all about Timothy Dolan, or all about cardinals and bishops, or about priests and sisters, or even about family and cherished friends.
Nope . . . this is all about two people: Him and her . . . this is all about Jesus and His Bride, the Church. For, as de Lubac asked, “What would I ever know of Him without her?”
Today marks the beginning of a rapid succession of external rituals in the life of a Catholic. We are reminded of Ash Wednesday, a non-Holy Day of Obligation that more Catholics attend than most Sundays during the Year in order to receive the blessed ashes on their forehead. Today we receive palm branches and we fold them into neat little crosses. On Holy Thursday we have the foot-washing. On Good Friday we kneel and kiss the Cross. And Saturday night, the Easter Vigil, is filled with incense, chants, exclamations, water, oil, and light. All of these, even the deadening silence and nakedness of the altar on Good Friday, are rich experiences that flood our senses. It somehow makes sense that we show up in such larger numbers to these liturgies than to the common Sunday obligation. Our Lord made us to be sensing beings and uses our senses to relate himself to us. But what will we do when Easter is over and the rest of the liturgical year marches on? What will we do when all the sensational things give way to the sobriety and noble simplicity that most often marks the Holy Mass? Will we then fall away, less interested in Masses that don’t excite our senses or our feelings?
But, then remember what happens. Only a few days later, this same group of Jews turns this acclamation into a death sentence, into a trumped-up charge of blasphemy.[1] Pilate said to them, “what do you want me to do with the man you call the King of the Jews?” They shouted, “Crucify him” (Mk 15:12-13).[And] The soldiers led him away inside the palace… and assembled the whole cohort. They clothed him in purple and, weaving a crown of thorns, placed it on him. They began to salute him with, “Hail, King of the Jews!" and kept striking his head with a reed and spitting upon him. They knelt before him in homage. And when they had mocked him, they stripped him of the purple cloak, dressed him in his own clothes, and led him out to crucify him (Mk 15:16-20).At this point, according to Roman law, Pilate probably sent a formal declaration of the charge against this so-called criminal to the archives in Rome. Then a copy of that charge was fixed to the cross on which Christ was crucified.[2] Over our Lord’s head, then, we see: “I.N.R.I.” an acronym that in Latin reads “Iesus Nazarenus Rex Iudaeorum” – Jesus of Nazareth, King of the Jews. Furthermore the chief priests and scribes continued to mock him saying “He saved others; he cannot save himself. Let the Christ, the King of Israel, come down now from the cross that we may see and believe” (Mk 15:31-32). But they had no interest in “belief” for a greater miracle than what they asked for, indeed the greatest miracle of all time, was unfolding before their very eyes, yet even then they could not “see.”[3] For Christ’s enemies, condemning him to death for being the King of the Jews would be the maximum correction for those under their influence who praised him for being that very thing.[4]
"Try to remember what a donkey is like--now that so few of them are left. Not an old, stubborn, vicious one that would give you a kick when you least expected,but a young one with his ears up like antennae. He lives on a meagre diet, ishard-working and has a quick, cheerful trot. There are hundreds of animals morebeautiful, more deft and strong. But it was a donkey Christ chose when he pre-sented himself to the people as king in response to their acclamation. For Jesushas no time for calculations, for astuteness, for the cruelty of cold hearts, for at-tractive but empty beauty. What he likes is the cheerfulness of a young heart,a simple step, a natural voice, clean eyes, attention to his affectionate word ofadvice. That is how he reigns in the soul" (St. J. Escriva, "Christ Is Passing By",181). [Navarre commentary on Mk 11:3]
At the Cross her station keeping,
Stood the mournful Mother weeping,
Close to Jesus to the last…
Christ above in torment hangs,
She beneath beholds the pangs
Of her dying glorious Son…
O my Mother, fount of love,
Touch my spirit from above;
Make my heart with yours accord…
Make me feel as you have felt,
Make my soul to glow and melt
With the love of Christ my Lord…
Let me share with you His pain,
Who for all my sins was slain,
Who for me in torment died…
By the cross with you to stay,
There with you to weep and pray,
Is all I ask of you to give.
HOLY FATHER ANNOUNCES A SPECIAL YEAR FOR PRIESTS VATICAN CITY, 16 MAR 2009 (VIS) - This morning in the Vatican the Holy Father received members of the Congregation for the Clergy, who are currently celebrating their plenary assembly on the theme: "The missionary identity of priests in the Church as an intrinsic dimension of the exercise of the 'tre munera'".
"The missionary dimension of a priest arises from his sacramental configuration to Christ the Head", said the Pope. This involves "total adherence to what ecclesial tradition has identified as 'apostolica vivendi forma', which consists in participation ... in that 'new way of life' which was inaugurated by the Lord Jesus and which the Apostles made their own".
Benedict XVI highlighted the "indispensable struggle for moral perfection which must dwell in every truly priestly heart. In order to favour this tendency of priests towards spiritual perfection, upon which the effectiveness of their ministry principally depends, I have", he said, "decided to call a special 'Year for Priests' which will run from 19 June 2009 to 19 June 2010". This year marks "the 150th anniversary of the death of the saintly 'Cure of Ars', Jean Marie Vianney, a true example of a pastor at the service of Christ's flock".
"The ecclesial, communional, hierarchical and doctrinal dimension is absolutely indispensable for any authentic mission, and this alone guarantees its spiritual effectiveness", he said.
"The mission is 'ecclesial'", said the Pope, "because no-one announces or brings themselves, ... but brings Another, God Himself, to the world. God is the only wealth that, definitively, mankind wishes to find in a priest.
"The mission is 'communional' because it takes place in a unity and communion which only at a secondary level possess important aspects of social visibility. ... The 'hierarchical' and 'doctrinal' dimensions emphasise the importance of ecclesiastical discipline (a term related to that of 'disciple') and of doctrinal (not just theological, initial and permanent) formation".
Benedict XVI stressed the need to "have care for the formation of candidates to the priesthood", a formation that must maintain "communion with unbroken ecclesial Tradition, without pausing or being tempted by discontinuity. In this context, it is important to encourage priests, especially the young generations, to a correct reading of the texts of Vatican Council II, interpreted in the light of all the Church's doctrinal inheritance".
Priests must be "present, identifiable and recognisable - for their judgement of faith, personal virtues and attire - in the fields of culture and of charity which have always been at the heart of the Church's mission".
"The centrality of Christ leads to a correct valuation of priestly ministry, without which there would be no Eucharist, no mission, not even the Church. It is necessary then, to ensure that 'new structures' or pastoral organisations are not planned for a time in which it will be possible to 'do without' ordained ministry, on the basis of an erroneous interpretation of the promotion of the laity, because this would lay the foundations for a further dilution in priestly ministry, and any supposed 'solutions' would, in fact, dramatically coincide with the real causes of the problems currently affecting the ministry".
ST. JEAN MARIE VIANNEY: PATRON SAINT OF ALL PRIESTS
VATICAN CITY, 16 MAR 2009 (VIS) - "Faithfulness of Christ, faithfulness of priests" is the theme of the Year for Priests announced today by the Holy Father, according to a communique issued by the Holy See Press Office.
The Pope will inaugurate the Year on 19 June, presiding at Vespers in St. Peter's Basilica where the relics of the saintly 'Cure of Ars' will be brought for the occasion by Bishop Guy Bagnard of Belley-Ars, France. He will close the year on 19 June 2010, presiding at a "World Meeting of Priests" in St. Peter's Square.
During the course of the Year, Benedict XVI will proclaim St. Jean Marie Vianney as patron saint of all the priests of the world. A "Directory for Confessors and Spiritual Directors" will also be published, as will a collection of texts by the Supreme Pontiff on essential aspects of the life and mission of priests in our time.
The Congregation for the Clergy, together with diocesan ordinaries and superiors of religious institutes, will undertake to promote and co-ordinate the various spiritual and pastoral initiatives which are being organised to highlight the role and mission of the clergy in the Church and in modern society, and the need to intensify the permanent formation of priests, associating it with that of seminarians.
It's been a while since I've posted because my last few homilies have been from notes I prepared rather than a full text. That's gone better than I thought. But I decided to type one up for this Sunday's readings anyway: The 2nd Sunday of Lent, Year B. Let me know what you think or how I can improve. If I were to deliver this one, I think I would still try to do it from some notes on the text.
I was listening to EWTN on Sirius satellite radio a couple days ago and caught the tail end of one of Fr. Leo Clifford's shows. This one was on the Mercy of God and he read a poem by an unknown Christian about Jesus addressing Judas from the cross. (Remember that from his despair at betraying our Lord, Judas hung himself) I was really struck by it but forgot Fr. Leo's name and couldn't find the poem anywhere. After some investigation I finally found one Google search result (One!) with the text of the poem.
Below is my homily on the readings for the 5th Sunday of Ordinary Time, Year B. It's a bit of a short one this week.
I've always considered Fox's hit TV show House to be a guilty pleasure of mine. I'm actually a huge fan and have seen every episode of all 5 seasons so far - either through Blockbuster Total Access or iTunes. I say "guilty pleasure" because the docs on the show aren't exactly paragons of virtue and Dr. House is a complete mess. I like it for its straight-talk, its non-PC, and the return to paternalism in health care that has moved too far toward the patient-autonomy philosophy (patient requests it - patient gets it, no matter what). Even though its a medicine-driven show with less soap opera than E.R. or Scrubs, the characters are still fairly deep. Plus, there's just no one like House. Also, I've been keeping a tally and I think across all five seaons so far the show is 5 for 5 pro-life, with five episodes in which the docs perform abortion or euthanasia and 5 when they tell the patient to do otherwise. And check out the first 1:20 of this fan video for one of my favorite House moments.
On Fox's "House," Bioethics Meets Television
Life Academy Member Offers Critique of Series
ROME, SEPT. 13, 2007 (Zenit.org).- The Fox Broadcasting Company's series titled
"House" reflects the existence of good and evil and the need to choose between the two, says a member of the Pontifical Academy for Life.
Dr. Carlo Valerio Bellieni is director of the Department of Newborn Intensive Therapy of the University Polyclinic Le Scotte in Siena, Italy. He told ZENIT that the series "shows something interesting."
He explained: "The show seems to be an apology for separation and absence: It tells the story of a misanthrope and harsh doctor, Gregory House, who doesn't want any contact with patients."
This separation, however, caused by his existential and physical suffering, is only apparent. While remaining surly and anti-social, each time he insistently tries to understand the depths of the person he is caring for.
"He is able to recognize suffering in others because of his own suffering and it is because of this that he can see things that may escape others. "
It is even more strange, and interesting, that the 'non-politically correct' actions and judgments, with some exceptions, come from a character who is in constant struggle with the world."
A doctor's role
The series debuted in November 2004 and stars British actor Hugh Laurie.
House "doesn't follow the crowd when it comes to ethical relativism in medicine -- the autonomy of the patient, the doctor as a 'provider of a service' that has lost the ability to give moral judgments on the practice of medicine," Bellieni continued.
The pontifical academy member explained: "He speaks harshly with his patients to persuade them to accept a cure, not to give in to their wishes. He knows that there exists a good medical practice and a mistaken one and he wants his patients to choose the good one. But also because in the patient's answer he is trying to find an answer for himself."
Bellieni said this "is much better than those who leave the patient alone in the face of a diagnosis of words and numbers, only 'free' to choose to live or die."
He explained: "To put it another way, the writers of the series paradoxically seem to tell us that often words, and certain sweet and pious expressions that are fashionable, serve to cover up distance between persons. "
This is wonderfully underlined by the soundtrack, full of music with a religious tone or that shows the dissatisfaction of a life without meaning, like 'Desire' by Ryan Adams or 'Hallelujah' by Jeff Buckley."
"We observe two clear points by the creators of the series," continued Bellieni. "First, that the doctor is not a 'provider of a service' to whom every request is equal, but he knows how to recognize a good answer from an evil answer and how to find the strength to not give them the latter."
Second, the doctor-patient relationship is never a one-way street: There is not only the one who gives, the doctor, and one who receives, the patient, but the doctor either finds himself in the position to learn strength from the patient, his way of communicating and his hidden signals … or he gives an ineffective treatment."
"House," Bellieni explained, "goes to the depressed manager who is waiting to be placed on the heart transplant list and screams at him saying 'Do you want to live? Tell me, because I don't know if I do!' and he doesn't do this so he will write a 'living will,' but to reawaken in him, and in himself, a love for life. "
House is certainly not a saint and he sometimes makes bad moral choices. But if he were a saint, would it be so surprising to hear him cry out, as sometimes happens, against drugs or incestuous sex or in vitro fertilization?"
Finding humanity
The fourth season of the series is set to begin in the United States on Sept. 25. Laurie was nominated for an Emmy Award for outstanding lead actor in a drama series in 2005 and this year.
Bellieni said: "House knows how to astonish: He makes mistakes, grinds his teeth, but he knows how to recognize what is human when he sees it."
"This is the important point, often overlooked in medical practice: amazement at the mysterious humanity of the patient."
"House," Bellieni remarked, "lets the little girl with a tumor hug him, whose life he prolonged by one year, and impressed with the moral strength of the little girl he begins to change his way of life."
"In the same way," he continued, "he is amazed by the little hand [snope?] of the fetus as it comes out of the womb during surgery and grasps his finger. For the rest of the day he continued to look at his finger, asking himself who is that life that no one considers human, maybe not even himself, but that touched him. "
His amazement is the foundation of his curative ability."
"House never seems to be there for his patients," concluded Bellieni. "He is not a good doctor, he is full of pain; but he is rich with a meaningful question, which does not lead him to despair. "
For this reason he is impressive, in an age in which nothing seems to have value except one's own whims, especially in medicine."